On behave of Laurie Branch, Janine King and myself we are thrilled to announce we are facilitating the first Building a Lasting Connection® (BLC) Couples Workshop in Colorado, February 2 & 3, 2024!
Are your clients looking to strengthen the emotional foundation of their relationship and gain more effective communication experiences with their partner? We’re excited to offer this research-based program / workshop - an immersive experience designed to support couples with knowledge and skills to navigate challenges and conflicts in a collaborative way.
When: February 2, 2024 6pm - 9pm (MST) AND February 3, 2024 9am - 5pm
Where: Hampton Inn 6333 Lookout Road, Boulder, Colorado 80301
Pricing: Early Bird price through Dec 31, 2023 - $650
Regular price: $700
Being mammals, dolphins rely on social learning and relationships to stay safe and survive. In pods, they play, babysit, alert each other to dangers, court and hunt together.
I have been blessed to snorkel with these magnificent and intelligent animals numerous times over the years.
As some of you know, I have a passion for helping teens and their parents deepen and secure their bonds and have found Hold Me Tight, Let Me Go Workshops to be a wonderful way of fostering this!
My latest endeavor is to bring two of my passions together and partner with WildQuest in Bimini to host a Hold Me Tight, Let Me Go Family Retreat.
Feel free to share this with families who may be interested. It is a financial commitment due to the travel and vacation nature of this retreat.
What People is saying about the "Hold me tight, Let me go" Workshop:
What I liked best about the workshop:
"FINALLY, family conversation!"
"being able to talk with an open mind"
"the first explanation video about the people with the signs"
"The interactive activities."
"The family time."
"The opportunity to talk as a family."
How has this workshop made a difference in your family life?:
"It's given me and my mom some better understanding about how we each feel."
"I think it helped us understand each other more."
"I was able to explain myself."
"Opened up in new ways to talk to my child."
"I hope the kids felt heard!"
"Stop, ask, and listen from the perspective of my teen. "
"Understanding my kid."
"The kids told us some really important stuff!"
What was the most helpful concept you learned?:
"Knowing the specific emotions and thoughts that go on in my mom's head."
"It's ok to speak your mind and get things off your chest. I've used it on the breaks."
"The prompts in the workbook."
"That I can really disagree with what my child is saying but still hear it. I tried to talk very little."
"The creation of space and time to connect."
"I like the list of feelings/behaviors for parents and teens."
How do you plan to maintain the knowledge you have gained?:
"Continue to have helpful dialogue."
"By continuing to talk to people."
"Practicing and acknowledging the emotions."
"By using it on a daily basis."
"Keep making time to talk, acknowledge, and hear form the people I love."
"When my kids advise me to 'shut up and go away', don't take it personally."
"This is a way to keep talking as a family."
What would you suggest we say to other parents/teens about the value of this workshop?:
"It's nice to have my parent actually listen without trying her input."
"Communication and listening to each other."
"This is a chance to do a positive reset as a family."
"The growth to be had is equal to the vulnerability that I demonstrate, my child demonstrates, as well as the whole group."
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If you are looking at this website you have some pain and distress in your life that you would like to address. For 31 years I have supported individuals, couples and families as they seek to heal broken, painful or disconnected relationships.
When working with individuals I develop a strategic treatment plan to create the greatest healing benefit possible. This plan will give us a clear beginning, middle and end to the therapy.
In my work with couples I promote increased emotional safety and bonding in the relationship through EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). When I first began doing couples therapy, I worked very hard with my couples on improving their communication skills. Unfortunately, good communication skills did not seem to make much of a difference for my couples. On some level, I knew that what I really wanted for my couples is for them to feel emotionally safe with one another. I wanted them to have the ability to turn to each other for contact, care and comfort. I knew that if they could each be vulnerable as well as attuned and comforting to one another, their bond with each other would be fortified. When couples are truly bonded, they can go through anything together and feel supported. They begin to carry burdens they experience together, instead of in isolation or turning to others for that support. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is like a road map to this process of bonding and connection.
If you choose to work with me, I believe that together we can create the life you want and deserve!
Degrees and Certifications
- Master's Degree in Pastoral Counseling from St., Thomas Seminary
- Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
- Certified Addictions Counselor III
- Certified by National Board of Counselors
- Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Approved Supervisor by ICEEFT
- Certified Brain spotting Therapist through Developer and Trainer David Grand, Ph.D.
- Co-Founder of Boulder Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy - Boulder EFT
I have been in the field of psychotherapy since 1986. I am grateful and honored to be able to assist individuals, couples and families in healing trauma; whether it be from one or more serious negative events or relational trauma caused by negative patterns between couple partnerships or other family members.
I am an attachment specialist and believe that we, as mammals, have a “cradle to grave” longing for deep human connection. We need to be seen, heard, and attuned to when we are upset. We need our feelings to be validated by another person.
The impact of trauma can leave a person with a fragile nervous system. The person can experience flashbacks and states of dysregulation. It can create fight, flight or freeze patterns of behavior, leaving one feeling alone and disconnected from oneself and loved ones. Some people cope with this by withdrawing into chemical or behavioral addictions. Others cope by trying to “pull themselves up by the bootstraps” and suffer silently. In either case, there is a sense of brokenness and hurt that lingers.
What we truly need in these times of distress is the ability to turn to another and receive contact, care and comfort. We need to be seen and validated in this broken place. In an authentic sense, this is what a therapist provides.
I work with individuals to create a strategic plan of healing past life events using Brain spotting or EMDR. Together we review the significant events that still impact the individual due to the negative beliefs or patterns formed from those events. Next, we process and release those traumas one by one or in groups. As the brain is rewired, new, more positive and healthy beliefs are formed as a result. The healed self lives with more compassion for self and others and is more available to live out of this place. The healed self chooses relationships that are inherently healthier.
My passion is working with couples to strengthen their bond through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Couples often create negative patterns in their relationships when they don’t feel emotionally safe and are not getting their needs met. We are constantly coding the behavior of our partner and can misinterpret or misperceive this behavior easily. These misperceptions lead to frustration and anger which can push the partner further away. Under the frustration, is generally a more vulnerable emotion such as hurt, fear or sadness. Under those vulnerable feelings are attachment needs such as love, security, acceptance and respect.