Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an attachment oriented approach developed by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. It is one of the few empirically-validated forms of couple's therapy with an outstanding 70-73% success rate for couples who complete the process. The research demonstrates that couples significantly improve over the course of treatment and continue to get better still at a two year follow-up.
When I first began doing couples therapy, I worked very hard with my couples on improving their communication skills. Unfortunately, good communication skills did not seem to make that much of a difference for my couples. On some level, I knew that what I really wanted for my couples is for them to feel emotionally safe with each other. I wanted them to have the ability to turn to each other for contact, care and comfort. I knew that if they could both be vulnerable and both be attuned and comforting, their bond with each other would be fortified. When couples are truly bonded, they can go through anything together and feel supported and held up. They begin to carry burdens they experience together instead of isolating or turning to others for that support. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is like a road map to this process of bonding and connecting. I have been studying EFT since 2009, I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and approved Supervisor.
The goals of EFT are:
-The ability for a partner to be able to turn to each other in vulnerability and allow the partner to respond in support. -To expand and reorganize key emotional responses. -To create a shift in partners' interactional patterns. -To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.
Most couples report lasting changes in their relationship that include: - A deeper emotional connection. - Increased understanding and compassion for each other. - Identification of unmet needs and increased ability to respond to those needs. - Decreased anger and frustration. - Rekindled romance and passion. - Renewed trust and commitment. - High levels of relationship satisfaction.
Praise for Emotionally Focused Therapy ‘EFT is one of the few approaches to marital therapy that has been proven to be effective’ - Jay Lebow, Ph.D, President Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association